1. Let go of expectations– A lot of times we don’t do something or ask for something because we believe that we know what the result will be. How many of us say “Oh I know what he/she will say” or “I already know how this meeting will go”? None of us have a crystal ball, so we don’t know for certain how something will play out. Remember, the answer will always be NO if you don’t ask and you will NEVER have what you want if you don’t at least try!
2. Get Support and a Support System– As much as some of us (yes me included) hate asking for help, we all need it at some point. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s interesting that most people who hate asking for help, are the first ones to offer help to others. Let other’s help you, it makes them feel good to do so. Also, asking others for help maintains your support system. Keep in contact with people, no matter if they are near or far, you don’t want to only reach out to someone when you need something.
3. SWEAT!– Although this can be found on every “new year, new you” list, it is for a good reason. A good workout does wonders for the mind and body. It has been proven that endorphins are released when you workout, and they help fight stress. After a good workout your may feel physically tired, but mentally the weight of the day is gone!
4. Change & Adapt– We are creatures of habit, and the most difficult thing can be adapting to change. As our environment changes, we should too. There is so much that is out of our control, the one thing we can control is how we respond and adjust to the changes that happen around us. Be open to change, you’ll see it’s not so bad.
5. Respect YOUR Own Privacy– In this age of social media it is very easy to “over-share”. Be mindful with what you share because you are sharing it with the WORLD! It is OK to wait to make announcements, or not to make any at all. Letting associates, or even strangers in on your life isn’t a requirement. People can be judgmental, there is no need to worry about what strangers or old friends from high school or college think. Only certain people truly care about the ups and downs of your life, and it’s OK to only share and celebrate certain moments with those people.
6. Meditate– Meditation is defined as “deeply thinking” or “focusing one’s mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting, for religious or spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation”. One of the benefits of meditation is quieting the mind. When you feel like your mind or your life is always “go, go, go” taking time to just sit still and pull away from all that is going on around you and giving your mind a break can decrease your stress levels. For information on how to meditate, click here.
7. Have Meaningful Conversations– A good conversation can be a instant mood shifter! Discussing things that matter to us is fulfilling. Regardless if the conversation is about a current event, a new goal you have set for yourself, or strolling down memory lane with a good friend, it will engage your mind and because the topic matters to YOU. Discussing the weather or listening to a co-worker go on about their weekend, while sometimes necessary, doesn’t do much to stimulate your mind.
8. Get Stuff Done– There is nothing like the feeling of a productive day! Many of us (yes me included again) are procrastinators. One way to increase your productivity is to make a list and stick to it! Know what needs to get done and seeing it on paper (or on the notepad in your phone) can help get you moving. But don’t make the list too long, you may feel discouraged if the list doesn’t get done. Make a short list, complete it, and make a new list! (If you get easily distracted, set a timer. Knowing you have 30 minute to fold the clothes or blocking out 45 of writing time for yourself may help keep you focused.)
9. Assess your Circle– This may be a difficult one to do, because sometimes we feel obligated to maintain friendships or relationships because of how long we have been friends with someone. This isn’t a suggesting that you end any of your friendships or relationship, but just to assess who is in your circle, and if necessary make changes. It is ok to make the circle smaller or even switch a person out for another. Assessing your circle can remind you that you have great people around you, and that should make any one happy!
10. Have Fun– REPEAT THIS 3Xs. As a known workaholic, this is one of my goals for the new year. Sometimes people think that because they don’t have a group of friends to go out with or extra money to spend they can’t have fun-WRONG!! Fun can be watching a comedy, having a game night with friends, or trying a new hobby. If you need money and your friends for a good time, plan and save! You will feel great because you are hanging with your friends and you set a goal and achieved it!
*WORTH A MENTION*-Add Music To Your Day- Beyonce gets me pumped when my morning coffee hasn’t kicked in! Jill Scott calms me down when my boss or customers have danced on my nerves. An 80s/90s playlist will get me through a long work task or even a couple hours of cleaning up on Saturday. Music is probably the quickest mood shifter and with access to FREE music streaming services like Pandora, Songza, iHeartRadio and iTunes Radio there is never an excuse to not have music!
Which of these items do you think is worth trying or have you tried? How will you ensure your happiness in 2015?