The energy of the mind is the essence of life~Aristotle Someone asked me last night, “So how did you know you needed to go see a therapist?” To be honest, I couldn’t tell him the exact moment I said, “Let me find a therapist”. I remember I did have a close friend that I discussed the topic with, but I don’t know if she suggested it or … Continue reading 3 Signs It’s Time To See a Therapist
“…in some ways, depression made me a better soldier.” ~ Dad & Depression attendee On Saturday, June 24, 2017, Speak Away the Stigma held it’s first event, Dads & Depression. It was held at the Cumberland County Public Library, downtown Fayetteville, NC. Three mental health professionals were invited to speak and educate the attendees on how depression looks differently in men vs. women, coping skills … Continue reading Dads & Depression: The Recap
I think in many cultures, men are told to be strong, and part of asking for any kind of help is seen as weak. In Fayetteville, so many people are connected to the military and there can be clearances involved. So many people think that going to therapy will make them lose their job or their clearance Continue reading “Everyone can be part of the solution, if we know what to look for…” Q&A with Joanna Nunez for Dads & Depression Event
Stigma and discrimination can also worsen someone’s mental health problems, and delay or impede their getting help and treatment, and their recovery. Social isolation, poor housing, unemployment, and poverty are all linked to mental ill health. So stigma and discrimination can trap people in a cycle of illness. Continue reading Dads & Depression Event speaker, Travis Andrews, LPC believes in “Challenging men to reduce levels of ego, pride and identifying the importance of mental health.”
I choose to Speak Away the Stigma of Depression because…….
I am now a part of this community and this is a way to share my support for it and my love for all people using the gifts I have been given. I want the men to represent on June 24th and let’s speak away the stigma!!! Continue reading “Men are the backbones of our families…” Q & A w/Richale R. Reed MA, LPC, LCAS for Dads & Depression Event
Why did I choose mental health? My decision to become a psychologist began with my love for fashion design. I know, I know…the two don’t seem to go together. Well, as long as I can remember I wanted to pursue a career in the fashion industry. Since I stopped growing at 5’4” tall at 10 years old, my dream of becoming a model was … Continue reading “Mental Health Advocacy is my life’s work.” ~ Dr. Cindy T. Graham
I choose to Speak Away the Stigma associated with postpartum depression because I don’t want another woman to have to suffer in silence. I was 27 years old when I became pregnant with my son. The news brought forth feelings of joy & guilt. My joy was due to me growing up knowing I wanted to be a mother. Still, my joy was overshadowed by the guilt of feelings that I had more to accomplish before becoming a mother. I was more concerned with the plans I made for my life than embracing the plan God was unveiling.
During my pregnancy, I began to alienate myself from family and friends. I felt like they were secretly disappointed and wouldn’t understand my depression. I was irritable, cried a lot and stopped praying. I felt like I let God down and wasn’t worthy of His love since I couldn’t obey His Word. My mother was the first to notice a significant change in my behavior. I knew she was worried but I hid a lot of what I was going thru from her. She encouraged me to get out the house and enjoy my pregnancy. My son’s father had a hard time accepting my mood swings and spent a lot of time away from me. Our relationship, which I planned to last forever, became toxic. This made me feel alone and caused me to question why God was allowing me to go through this.The birth of my son didn’t catapult things into a better direction immediately. I had to adjust to the physical changes my body went through, the freedom I gave up for my son and balancing day to day activities. I knew I needed help. A few times I worked up the courage to make appointments to see a therapist. Once I couldn’t afford the $25 copay and another time I felt like they would see me as an unfit mother. Throughout my depression, it was so important to portray being a good mom even though I didn’t always feel like one. I loved my son but felt guilty and like I wasn’t enough. I was in a dark and low point in my life. So, what changed? I began to get back into my routine of praying, journaling and speaking to other mothers. After speaking to so many women who were close to me I saw how common this illness is. I heard stories of so many extremities from just being sad, to being suicidal and even wanting to harm their babies. I encourage anyone who is going through this to seek the help I was too ashamed to ask for. Your children deserve the very best version of you! My son is almost two years old and is the light of my life. He will be two years old in June and he is smart (he can count to ten) extremely goofy and loves Mickey Mouse. We pray together, read and do the Chuck E. Cheese dance. My experience has taught me that Gods plan is better than my own. He will always turn your pain into purpose and your test into a testimony! “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.”(2 Corinthians 4:17)
The facts about Postpartum Depression on this post are from the National Institute of Mental Health. You can read more about the symptoms and treatment options here .
Thara Gould Edinburgh, UK Full diagnosis: Depression, anxiety, EDNOS/OSFED, and Insomnia. Medication-Why I hated it & What changed my mind Hey Guys, Recently on social media, I have seen negative posts surrounding medication, and while it’s not always the solution, I believe it is an option that should be explored. During my 8 month stay in a Psychiatric Unit, I refused my medication, this was … Continue reading SPEAK OUT: Medication-Why I hated it & What changed my mind
I walked into the classroom, sat down and stared at the other 20 people. The first thing I noticed was I was that almost everyone was older than me. There were about 3 of us that appeared to be early to mid-thirties, everyone else was 20-30 years older. Next, I noticed that about 5 of the people were Black. Some people looked rich, some looked poor, some looked happy, and others looked stressed. Do I belong here? Can I quit this class without being harassed via email? I hope I don’t fall asleep. These were the thoughts in my head as I sat waiting for the class to begin. Two hours later and several tear drops later all I saw were people who understood my struggle for the last 25 years. Continue reading “Shame. Hurt. Anger. Confusion. And the Power of Sharing Your Story.”
What made us talk about mental health in 2016? The short answer is a little bit of everything! From senseless killings to hashtags to Solange’s latest album to Myleik Teele’s podcast mental health, mental illness, and self-care are becoming more common for us to talk about. Even though there is still a lot of stigma around mental illness and self-care, 2016 can be classified as a year of progress! In no particular order, let’s take a look at 11 things that made us talk about mental health last year!
NYC Well & Chirlane McCray: ThriveNYC: A Mental Health Road Map for All was released in November 2015 and gave an outline of 23 new initiatives for New Yorkers mental well-being (there is a total of 54 initiatives outlined). The NYC.gov site gives data on why these programs are needed, and one of the numbers that stands out is 14 Billion; that is the estimated amount of dollars lost annually because of losses in productivity. This astounding amount isn’t the only reason NYC’s First Lady Chirlane McCray made mental health her signature issue. In September 2016 Chirlane sat down with Essence and discussed promoting mental health, read it here. In the article, she is open about mental illness in her own family, which many people in the spotlight don’t discuss. In October 2016 NYC Well launched and it is a free, confidential connection to mental health support for New Yorkers.
The Veteran’s suicide Rate: The Department of Veterans Affairs released a study in July of 2016 that states on average 20 Veterans a day are committing suicide. About 18% of all suicides in the United States are U.S. Veterans, however, they make up only 9% of the U.S. population. Throughout 2016 Veterans Affairs had come under fire for various issues related to the care of our veterans, but the release of this number is staggering. While providing assistance can be difficult if Veterans are not reaching out for help, the VA has increased the amount of mental health providers, support personnel, and established partnerships with community health providers.
The shooting death of Deborah Danner: In October 2016 an NYPD officer shot and killed Deborah Danner; she was well known Bronx resident that had been living with schizophrenia for years. In New York Times article it states that an officer shot her twice after Ms. Danner took a swing at him with a baseball bat. NYC Mayor Bill De Blasio and the Police Commissioner agreed the incident was not handled according to protocol. This is only one of several incidents that led us to discuss the training officers are receiving or the lack thereof. Ms. Danner’s attorney shared an essay she wrote a few years ago about Living with Schizophrenia (The essay IS worth a read!)
Dr. Phil’s interview with Shelley Duvall: Shelley Duvall was a famous actress and not many people knew she had been diagnosed with a mental illness until she appeared on The Dr. Phil Show. Dr. Phil offered to get Shelley professional help, however, many people felt that this interview was exploitation. Even though Duvall consented to the interview, those that opposed the interview feel if she were well she wouldn’t want the interview to be aired. The controversy of this episode was so serious, to date, we have not been able to find the full episode online.
Kid Cudi: Black Men’s Mental Health captured the spotlight when Kid Cudi took to Facebook on Oct. 4th, 2016 and shared his own struggles with depression. The post, which has 137k shares, states he has been living a lie, living with depression, anxiety, and suicidal urges. He also admits he is nervous about the next steps but he has to do this not only for himself, for his family and fans.
#yougoodman: According to the Huffington Post, #yougoodman began on Twitter during a conversation between @DaynaLNukolls & @TheCosby. The hashtag was created for Black men to have a safe place to discuss mental health. This hashtag is significant because men have higher rates of suicide and also because mental health in the Black community is swept under the rug and not discussed.
Kanye West: In November of 2016 Kanye West went on another rant during a show. At this point, a Kanye West concert isn’t a Kanye West concert without at least one 20 minute rant! However days after he abruptly ended the Sacramento show he was hospitalized in LA, some reports say due to exhaustion other reports say he was placed on psychiatric hold. There was even a leak of a mental health evaluation that supposedly belonged to Kanye. Although we may never hear from West about why he was hospitalized it reignited the conversation about Black men’s mental health.
A Seat at the Table: Solange Knowles released her third studio album on September 30, 2016. This album was described as a therapeutic collection of soulful tunes by VH1.com and some features include Lil Wayne, Kelly Rowland and BJ the Chicago Kid. The interludes on the album from Mama Knowles, Papa Knowles, and Master P make you really understand that this album is about the Black experience. A Seat at the Table is Solange’s first number one album in the U.S. and the song Cranes in the Sky is grammy nominated. This song is the most therapeutic song on the album for many. “I tried to drink it away/ I tried to put one in the air/ I tried to dance it away/ I tried to change it with my hair”, this opening verse makes you want to hear more probably because we have all had issues we have tried to deal with in various ways. Cranes in the Sky describes a metal clouds in the sky (those things that weigh on us and that follows us everywhere).
Bipolar Faith: “Monica A. Coleman’s great-grandfather asked his two young sons to lift him up and pull out the chair when he hanged himself, and that noose stayed in the family shed for years. The rope was the violent instrument, but it was the mental anguish that killed him.” These are the first two lines of the description on Amazon to Bipolar Faith: A Black Woman’s Journey with Depression & Faith. This book was published in July 2016 is “both a spiritual autobiography and memoir of mental illness” that discusses Monica’s own journey with bipolar II. What is sure to make her story more interesting is the fact that Monica is a minister and a Professor of Constructive Theology and African-American Religions at Claremont School of Theology in southern California. Click here to read more about Bipolar Faith and other books written by Dr. Monica A. Coleman.
Myleik Teele asked a therapist: Myleik Teele is an entrepreneur and does a podcast when time permits about lessons she has learned in business and in life. Curl Box is a huge success and Teele is open about her struggles with starting the subscription-based business, previous relationships, dealing with her achievements. One area she has also been open about is the fact that she has a therapist. A happy, successful Black woman that discussed having therapist was bound to get a lot of questions from her followers, so she dedicated an entire podcast to questions for a therapist. Myleik has met all of her podcast guests, so when she ran into Jor-El Carabello again, she asked him to do the podcast! Jor-El Carabello, who isn’t Myleik’s therapist, is a licensed mental health counselor in New York. The interview ranged from ways to find a therapist to advise for a young woman whose mother is suffering from mental illness. Listen here on podomatic or find it on iTunes. A couple of Teele’s other podcasts that made us talk about self-care, self-fulfilment, and self-esteem: How I Found Peace & Happiness: A chat with Necole Kane. Myleik and Necole Kane, of xoNecle, have girl talk about dealing with change and what finding happiness looks like. The other was a surprise podcast sparked by a listener’s letter. A Letter for Late Bloomers & Comparison will make you rethink your own success and question the story we tell ourselves. Check out a listing of all of Myleik Teele’s podcasts here.
TRUMP! Yes, our President-elect Donald Trump made us all discuss mental health and mental illness. Even though we questioned his mental wellness at times, our main concern was the way he answered questions about our Veterans and mental health while on the campaign trail. While he acknowledges the high veterans suicide rate, he also seems to suggest that some soldiers have mental health problems because they are not strong enough to handle things they see during wartime. His comments upset many people, but also made us take a closer look at PTSD and the Veterans suicide rate. Trump becoming our next president is sure to give most of American some added stress and anxiety so he may make the list again next year!